Wednesday, April 4, 2018

Mommy Meltdown. DC. Easter. GC. Fools. More Meltdown

After my Glenwood trip with the kids I felt like it was time to stop drinking Diet Coke.  I have been wanting to stop, but there is never a convenient time to take two or three weeks off due to head aches and irritability and needing daily naps.  But I felt so gross after way over doing it with drinking Diet Coke and just poor diet habits in general that I knew it was time.  I know this may sound ridiculous to some people, but this is how insane my addiction is: if I don't have the exact same amount of Diet Coke every day at the same time, I WILL GET A HEAD ACHE!  It is cruelly unfair.  I wish I could take it or leave it, but I have always desperately looked forward to that moment in the day when it's not too early to drink Diet Coke.  And sometimes that's 9 am people.  It was just getting out of hand.  I don't like needing a substance to survive in my life, and boy am I feeling it now during detox.  It has been one whole week and I am still getting head aches.  The first two days were the worst.  No amount of Advil was going to save me on those dreadful days, but thankfully they are past.  And I am still alive.  And so are my kids.  Today was especially tiring.  I find myself exhausted with the lack of caffeine and always a lingering dull head ache.  If I remember correctly from my last detox, it took about 3-4 weeks of exhaustion and needing naps to get to a better place.   So.  Mommy is struggling right now.  The kids are on Spring Break so every one is home.  Actually, the older kids are fine.  It's Jane who must know how terrible I feel and is making it exponentially worse by being the typical terrible two year old that she knows is her right of passage at this stage of life.  She screams, she hits, she pulls hair, she won't eat her meals, she doesn't want to nap, she is extra cranky for bed.  Now that she's not in a crib she can just destroy, destroy, destroy.  The more things we take out of her room to save, the more OTHER things she finds to destroy.  She is so busy.  I can't handle it.  At dinner I lost it.  I made this beautiful lasagne.  I took all afternoon making the sauce, and then putting it together.  It was delicious.  AND NO ONE WAS EATING IT.  And if Joe were in town, which he isn't, he wouldn't have eaten it either because he's on a diet that requires him to eat nothing that I make.  I hit my limit.  After yelling at the kids for arguing and bugging each other and not eating along with those that were eating but doing it slowly, I left the kitchen table and told them it was their turn to clean up and they could put Jane to bed and that I would be in my room being by myself.  I watched three episodes of The Voice like a major sloth.  I feel so gross right now and my head is no better.  This detox is killing me.  I have zero patience and am SO TIRED!  Jackson said he doesn't really see a difference in my behaviour, which made me laugh.  I guess I'm always a terrible, impatient human being.

Also.  Easter happened last weekend.  The Easter bunny set up an elaborate egg hunt on Saturday morning and the kids were finding eggs basically all day, because that is just how good that bunny was at hiding.  Jane was in candy-heaven, and as mentioned earlier, she won't eat anything else now.  All she wants are "jay-buns!" (jelly beans).



We also found time during Jane's nap to dye Easter eggs.  I never boil enough eggs.  I know it's such a waste because who is going to eat all those eggs, but I find myself wanting to dye WAY more eggs.  Note for next year: Spend the money in the name of a special craft, not because you plan to eat them all at some point!



 Sunday was April Fools Day.  Jackson was SO into it.  So into it that he has been planning tricks all month long and woke up at 6am just to prepare everything.  Proud Mama right here.  He balanced a cup of water on top of of the bathroom door getting Ellie, Joe AND almost me.  He put soap on the girls' toothbrushes.  He put whipped cream on a kitchen chair (Ellie was the receiver of that one).  He plastic wrapped the toilet seat.  He put vinegar and other disgusting things in my pop (which I didn't drink because Noah spilled the beans).  He put fruit in the cookie jar.  And the list goes on.  Noah was his little minion and together they went to town!  He was so exhausted from all his planning that he fell asleep during the afternoon session of General Conference.  As did I.  Whoops.  Lots of cool changes!  Go President Nelson!


Still kicking myself for not taking advantage of this situation.  I even had a pen in my hand and missed my chance to show Jackson what kind of magic I can work on April Fools day!  Instead I placed dolls on their beds when they were sleeping.

As per usual, all the kids watched the morning session of Sunday's general conference and as per usual I got nothing out of that session.  REWATCH!  Jane was a terror.  She has got to be my busiest child.  Either that or I am getting old and just can't keep up!  But during the afternoon session we gave the kids the option to watch with us (not one child chose that), or to figure out another Sunday-appropriate activity that did not involve screens.  So we got out Noah's Faith in God booklet and he worked on two goals.  Not just for fifteen minutes.  But for the full two hours.  He made a complete board game with his own rules and such that takes you to the temple.  It was so cute and I could tell he worked really hard on it.  And then he had a scripture goal to read about and discuss the Good Samaritan.  I was so proud of him and his focus.

Joe's kind of been busy the past few evenings, so this little girl has been my bud.  On this particular night she stayed up late to help me make a cake.  Normally I am pretty strict about bed time because these girls can sure get cranky, but it was actually really nice to have a little buddy.  Ellie chose to read in her room.  But we all scored with cake before bed.

On another night Zoe came downstairs while I was watching Emma all by myself.  She said she was worried about having nightmares.  I could have rolled my eyes BUT I remember the times my Mom didn't make too much of a fuss letting me stay up a little later every once in a while, so she snuggled with me and fell sleep to the movie.  Again.  Nice to have a companion to share in Emma's trials.

I am so tired.  I know I am extra tired because of my DC detox, BUT I think just being a Mom is exhausting generally.  Yes, I'm going back to this rant!  The sleeping pic of Zoe reminded me, so I'm back here.  Earlier today as I was mopping the floor, I stopped for a moment and realized that my face looked like a zombie.  And my body.  I feel like no one sufficiently warned me that being a Mom is essentially being a cook and clean and coming in last place.  Everyone else is first.  Mom wants to do something?  Well you can forget about it---there's some sports event or activity that your child has to be at and Joe has a meeting!  And if you DO end up getting a small break (which usually just means running errands without kids), good luck coming home.  You will likely have twice the clean up waiting for you.  I am constantly cleaning.  Constantly!  But you would never know.  It doesn't even matter.  It doesn't matter because whatever you are cleaning now will not look clean in thirty minutes and while you are cleaning, something else in another room is getting undone.  I'm just done.  Are you allowed to quit as a Mom?  I think it's that time of year where I am just running out of fuel and my tank is so on empty and when it runs out I don't know what kind of a person I will be.  I know I just posted about Glenwood and my super fun time with friends.  But you also have to remember we were all trapped in one house with a million kids and crappy weather.  We still had to take care of our kids, feed them, listen to them complain or cry, clean up after them, and put them to bed.  I still had to pack up the car for six, unpack, then pack up the car again and unpack and do all that dang laundry (it was all worth it.  Just let me complain).  I just want to pack for one.  What I'd really like is to go on a tropical vacation with Joe, just us, and I don't have to arrange for babysitting.  I want zero responsibility.  And maybe Joe and I could get to know each other again.  "Hey you!  I know you, right?"  I feel like everyone else and their dog is going on trips right now, and with this winter being as long as it has been, I'm a little stir crazy.  And if you are still reading along on my childish journey of a rant, good for you and congratulations for hanging in there.  Now you know what kind of annoying things I can go on and on about!  

Glenwood Traditions

It's a tradition now.  Every Spring I take the kids to go to Glenwood with my very best of friends.  My kids think we are all sisters and that the kids are their cousins.  Haha!  Little do they know that one day they will all develop crushes on each other and it will be OKAY.  There was even one point before everyone came that eleven year old Jackson only had about a million girls his age around and they were all playing Werewolf in a bedroom.  I had to go in there just to make sure a BOY could enter (and I made them leave the door open---my first time ever being a tiny bit worried about an innocent situation getting out of hand).  His worry was, "I'm afraid they won't accept me" (for being a boy).  They did.  And thankfully they are all pretty innocent at that age.  I am afraid that in a few years I will have to be a little more careful!  Whitney and Taylor are thirteen and there were two fourtneen year old boys (cute, I might add) and you could just tell they thought they were cute and were too nervous to even be around them!  Maybe not Taylor, but definitely Whit.  Haha!  With these kids getting older we thought it would be fun to introduce them to a couple fortune-telling games like MASH or a card game where each King's suit stands for someone: Heart-someone you really like; Diamond-a friend, Clubs-someone you don't like: and Spades is a mystery man that the fortune teller gets to choose.  I totally remember playing that as a kid so it was fun to teach them these games and see them go all red when the fortune landed on something desirable or not desirable at all.  Haha!  Jackson and Noah even played.  It was cute and very G-rated.  "Who is good at basketball?"  "Who is a good cook?"  Taylor's man-of-Clubs was my favourite pick: a grown up porcelain doll that is about four feet tall.  So anytime her question would land on him, any sign of romance turned into sheer creepiness!  "Who draws pictures of you from afar and has a sketchbook full of pictures of just you?  ...THE DOLL!"  Bahaha!  It was so fun.  But most fun was our late-night evenings with too much food and lots of laughing.  My only wish was that kids were in bed earlier so our nights could last longer.  No.  That's a lie.  I want TWO wishes.  I wish there was no snow or wind so we could send the kids outside more often.  I mean, it didn't stop SOME kids, but it sure wasn't pleasant weather.  The wind was biting and the snow was stiff and wet.  Not a great combination.  We even tried to go out for a couple of walks and it made me so grateful that I thought to bring my hefty winter coat.  I needed it!  I thought we would all blow away!  I think my favourite late-night was when we all played "Things in a Box."  Sometimes the questions are so leading and you can't help but get a tiny bit inappropriate.  We wanted to make sure that none of the kids could stumble upon some of our answers, so instead of throwing away our strips of paper like normal humans, we took it a step further---well, like ten steps further---and put them all in a paper bag that said, "Bag-o-sins" and went outside at 2am and lit them on fire whilest dancing around it to the song, "The Return to Innocence."  Yes.  That was my favourite memory.  I didn't need a third wish because it came true.  Wait.  Did that even make sense.  Okay.  If I had a third wish, then it came true.  I didn't get sick!

Until I got home.

Now here are a slew of pics from our fun week!  Sunday massage train.  Kinda lucked out on this one.

Fat guy in a little coat.  This jacket belonged to a teddy bear and Sarah bet that it could fit Jane.  Aaaaand she was right.

Trying to have some outside time with Jane and Lenea.  Five whole minutes of it.

We spent lots of the day time doing crafts and such.  One day we were bold enough to take the kids swimming.  I wanted to die because Jane was the absolute worst.  All she wanted to do was run away from me.  And fell about a thousand times doing so.  I would look over longingly at the hot tub where all of the Moms sat and they just laughed at me!  Haha!  It WAS pretty funny.  Jane kept us all entertained with her tantrums.  She'd hit me and pull my hair.  I'd put her in time-out. She'd hug me and say "I love you Mom" and pet my face like a puppy.  And then she'd do it all over again.  Yup.  Super fun.

Barb Butler, Kelli Gordon, Sarah and Hannah.
 
The Candy Store.  Such a beautiful thing for all.  The kids all get to earn points by cleaning/helping and then spend their points by "buying" candy.



The kids put on a talent show.  It was ADORABLE!  Lots of piano students wanting to show off their pieces.  Jackson is sitting with Elizabeth Gordon and Alivia Sladek doing a version of that one song that every person knows.  Zoe surprised me by wanting to sing a solo.  She got right up there and sang "A Thousand Years" in front of the whole group.  She melts me.

Stella-Ella-Olla.

The boys were so good to me.  I would stay up so late and they would get up with Jane and feed her and take care of her until I woke up.  It made my week there very tolerable to be able to have those breaks and to sleep in.  Because when Jane is not sleeping she is quite a lot of work---especially when it's not our house.

A few lovely attempts at a group picture.



Everyone declared my face to be the ugliest.  A true honour.

Cross-stitching ended up being "the thing" that week.  I couldn't get into it, so Zoe asked Sarah to make her something.  And like a good Auntie, she did.




Jane.  Stalling like crazy before bed.  "Potty!  Mom!  Potty!"

Ellie made a good little friend out of Brinn Anderson.  Tied to the hip once she arrived.

Elliott had all the sweet electronics, so he was well-followed.  Haha!
 
Kristi organized an awesome little treasure hunt and in the end the kids all got some Easter treats.  These kids were well-loved this week.  And there was no shortage of treats, that's for sure!


Sarah introduced, "This is Halloween" from the movie, "The Nightmare Before Christmas" and you bet she requested it over and over and over.  And now that we're back home she asks for Sarah and "Haweeeeeenin!" over and over and over.

Let the fortune-telling begin!


I sit down for one minute.  ONE!

This was on one of our walks after Kelli had gone and we thought we saw her van.

But it wasn't hers.

 Late night stash.

Cassie in the kitchen.  I love this girl.  Each time we would eat a meal we would go into the piano room sans kids and just visit and eat and relax and it was so nice.

Our Bag-o-Sins.



The sun is a lair.  It was cold.

And now I can't wait until we can get together again.  I hate these long separations.  Change is tough.  We are all in really busy situations in our lives so it's hard to get together even just this once a year.  And not everyone was even able to come this time around.  It's already beginning!  Sometimes we try to get together over the Summer or before Christmas, but it's definitely tricky.  I love these women.  I will always look up to you and love you my amazing friends!  I'm lucky to have you in my life.